Ok, I'll be honset and say that I believe the answer should be 'Yes', but I think that there's a big difference between a gentle smack on the bum and a thorough kicking.
I'm actually grateful to my parents for the smacks they gave me, but they never thumped, slapped or did anything that has left a lasting scar on me.
Of course, I'm open to arguments because I know there are those who don't know the difference between a smack and a kicking.
So place your votes.
i didn't enjoy being spanked by my mom but it made me what i am today. so i voted yes.
If everyone just shouted at Saddam and didn't go over there and give him a kicking then I think things would have turned out different...
Same with kids, sometimes you need more than words to get your point across but obviously there's a difference between a smack and a kicking!
i vote yes, coz if your parents don't spank you, you'll never learn. 8)
I vote yes, because as I've seen in my area, a smack from the parents when you are bad saves you getting a damn good kicking when you are older. Personally I see it that a parent who doesn't smack their kid if they are bad doesn't care about their child. Punishment is a fundamental part of learning, children are like pets, they are far more receptive to treats when good and smacks when bad than they are to being told they are good/bad.
A bunch of kids round here, well they aren't kids any more, they are adults but they might as well be kids with their mentality, who were blatently brought up without care and consideration from the parents and have become a bunch of yobbo's, got a damn good kicking the other night from groups of people they have annoyed over the years. One was even chased down the road being smacked with the front tyre of his own bicycle in retribution for the damage done by him to other kids bikes over the years. They don't have any respect for people, have been picked up by the police a few times and just dropped off home. If a child isn't brought up properly this happens, they run rampant, and these have found out what it's like to be an adult when most of the people in the area hate you for what you've done over the years.
Parents have to take a strong role in the conduct and behaviour of their children and smacking is one of the best ways of enforcing good conduct.
I voted yes, although I might have voted the 'no- cause they don't know when to stop' -option as well. I have never really been spanked myself and basically I don't believe in physical punishment. But.
A couple of weeks ago I read in a Finnish newspaper that a father is now set on trial for pulling his 8-year-old daughter's hair for five times and since bruising occurred, it was considered a crime. The case had first been let to drop since the court was unsure whether the child's story was reliable. Now the Office of the Prosecutor General has opened the case again, because they believe the girl's story and evidence of the bruises were introduced. So now the father faces trial. And to me it sounds insane. It brought me thinking about all the kids who are hyperactive, and then they get diagnosed as having attention deficit / hyperactivity disorder, and they grow up to be hyperactive adults. And at no point along the way no-one even tries to make them learn how to control themselves. There must be a difference between smack and a kicking like TANKERx said and I know it's not clear to everyone, but some method of control must be allowed.
I've been avoiding this thread, i dont know why, maybe cos' this is an issue that should have a proper furum of discussion with people of both sides of the argument. I'm just worried with this being discussed here, like the Iraq war thread before, i dont agree that this is the right palce. Its too delicate an issue, folks here seem to have a singualr view on thing and like things that may not be considered cosher.......no disrespect intended to anyone cos' i like all you guys....but when pics like that of the "great gifs" in the multimedia forum are allowed and cheered on, well its hard not to question some views, valid and welcomed as they may be.
I'm 22 and i am African, an smacking in my mother country is not even an issue. Your folks can smack you, so can your relatives, nanny, teacher and even your neighbour. its the way of life there.
Having, lived in the UK for approx 9 years, i have noticed the drastic difference in child behaviour to what i was raised as and i was very supprised that my maths teacher didnt cane me across the back for missing an equation.
Children here are undoubtably less respectful and dilinquents to say the least. But i think this stems from our "fast food" society, no time for anything, no time to even raise ones offspring.
There are children in this soceity that have gone through life with no smacking and turned out respectful adults. We are a very hypocritical society, we teach our kids not to do one thing then encourage them to do it..............Alcopops.........cannabis.......extacy....cigarettes.....booze binges. we call these neccesary sins, and we revel in them, but when children grow up to emulate this we smack them, then we encourage them to be free and think for themselves, they have the right as people.
Mixed signals everywhere, parents that dont care or are as bad as the kids, the quick way is to physically punish the children believing that they would not do that again. when what we should do, is look at ourselves as parents, what we encourage, what we glaze over and ignore.
All forms of media corrupt and its not children running these things (except for those genius ones 😃), its adults, and until they take responsilbility for the trash they psew out most of the times, i'm affraid children are not gonna change but rather get worse as the years trundle by.
I have my scars from my many years of punishment and though i turned out straight laced and boring as some people would believe, it is not an ordeal i would repeat or inflict on my children. there is a differenece between kicking and smacking, but it is a very thin line between the two....once the hand is lifted when the child commits a minor offence what is to stop there being a heavier punishment for a majore offence.
well, i apologise for any defamatory statements made and its absolutely nothing against anyone here, but a generalization of what i have seen. i feel very strongly about this issue thus try to avoid discussing about it.
dont worry i was not abused and i'm not mentaly scarred, i love my folks, i just wont wish it on my children.
p.s...no flames pls😊
Both my brother and i had a wooden spoon on the bum if we deserved it. Did us no harm. And if i feel my kids need a clip then they will get one, whatever Brussels might say. Maybe not with a spoon though!
yes. coz sparing the rod to your child is a way of discipline. but always remember that your kid owe you an explanation why did you have to do it. 😊