After almost returning my tdk usb adapter and frantically searching the net for any workarounds for the "bug" in their drivers/software that wouldnt let the phone connect, or send pictures from the phone to the pc, i've finally had some light shone on the subject:
regedit to:
HKEY_CURRENT_USER\Software\Widcomm\BTConfig\Services\0004
you'll see there a string "AcceptOther" and its set to 0. This basically makes the computer deny anything sent over bluetooth thats not either a business card, calender item, email, note, etc.
set it to 1 and everything will work fine.. 😃 😃 😃 😃 😃