okay obviously the difference of sizes in my contacts in properties and memory is driving me crazy, more so when i read one reply that his 9210 has the same size ugh .....so whoever gives me an answer ...i promise...im gonna ask god to bless him and his 9210 
crazy memory
Try this - create a new contacts database on MMC and move all contacts from your existing database (use ctrl a to select all) to this new database. Move all contct groups as well. Once this is done, move all contacts & groups back to your existing database. Reboot & check the size. This procedure would also cleanup your deleted contacts.
PS-if this works, don't forget your promise. I need either GPRS or Bluetooth on my 9210! 