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do you value friendship?

17 replies · 2,548 views · Started 01 April 2003

One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw
a kid from my class was walking home from school. His
name was Kyle. It looked like he was carrying all of his
books. I thought to myself, "Why would anyone bring
home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a
nerd."

I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football
game with my friends tomorrow afte! rnoon), so I
shrugged my shoulders and went on.

As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward
him. They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his
arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt. His glasses
went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten
feet from him. He looked up and I saw this terrible
sadness in his eyes.

My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him and
as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw
a tear in his eye. As I handed him his glasses, I said,
"Those guys are jerks. They really should get lives." He looked
at me and said, "Hey thanks!" There was a big smile on his face.
It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude.

I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where
he lived. As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him
why I had never seen him before. He said he had gone to private
school before now.

I would have never hung out with a private school kid
before. We talked all the way home, and I carried some
of his books. He turned out to be a pretty cool kid. I
asked him if he wanted to play a little football with my
friends. He said yes. We hung out all weekend and the
more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my
friends thought the same of him.

Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the
huge stack of books again. I stopped him and said,
! "Boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles
with this pile of books everyday!" He just laughed and
handed me half the books.

Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best
friends. When we were seniors, we began to think
about college. Kyle decided on Georgetown, and I
was going to Duke. I knew that we would always be
friends, that the miles would never be a problem. He
was going to be a doctor, and I was going for business
on a football scholarship.

Kyle was valedictorian of our class. I teased him all the
time about being a nerd. He had to prepare a speech for
graduation.

I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and
speak. Graduation day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He
was one of those guys that really found himself during high
school. He filled out and actually looked good in glasses.
He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved him.
Boy, sometimes I was jeal! ous.

Today was one of those days. I could see that he was
nervous about his speech. So, I smacked him on the back
and said, "Hey, big guy, you'll be great!" He looked at me
with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled.
"Thanks," he said.

As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and
began. "Graduation is a time to thank those who helped
you make it through those tough years. Your parents,
your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach...but mostly
your friends. I am here to tell all of you that being a
friend to someone is the best gift you can give them. I
am going to tell you a story."

I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the
story of the first day we met. He had planned to kill
himself over the weekend. He talked of how he had
cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have to do
it later and was carrying his stuff home.
He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile.

"Thankfully, I was saved. My friend saved me from
doing the unspeakable."

I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular
boy told us all about his weakest moment.
I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same
grateful smile. Not until that moment did I realize it's depth.

Never underestimate the power of your actions. With
one small gesture you can change a person's life. For
better or for worse.

God puts us all in each other's lives to impact one another
in some way.

😉

Well this is a community of friends and it certainly is not just a joke 8)

I just realize that jamella needs a party of her own now. CONGRATULATIONS
:bday: :bday:

Well speaking of friends. I have many many friends, but the real friends are counted on the hands of my hand. They will really help me in the bad days of my life, give me what i really want, give a better support even than my parents. And i am also ready to do the same. Real friendship is not only taking but also giving. Sharing. Sacrificing.... But again there is always this fear, this nightmare, being totally alone, counting only on yourself. Do you really have the power to stand it? Time will tell,be prepared for it....

Good Friends are 100% more worthy, more trustworthy and could always be counted on than relatives.

MY personal opinion based on experience.

relatives are just people who you are forced to like.
Actually crazy to like them because they are just familly.
Friends are persons who you choose (and they choose you) the result is super 😊 (of course friends can be familly members 😊 )

[quote="The Godfather"]Unfortunatly true friends are extremly hard to find... :cry: :roll:[/quote]

I'd like to be able to disagree with you, but I can't. Sorry.

I have viewed this topic dozens of times but i have never posted anything.
The story was excelent,it woke a little sparkle of hope within me.

I'm really down these days.

I really like what Dazler said and i totally agree with crypto.

BTW: My relatives are really busting my balls these days.

saying goes that true friends are really hard to find, i think it also depends on the standard that you set. and as your standard for that true friend goes higher, the harder you'll find one. 😉

Although they are hard to find, you'll never lose them again.
I have 2 best friends. I know them both quite a while now. Strange thing is we can not see each other for a year and then come together and be 100% ourselves against eachother and talk about whatever we want, total trust.

That's what I mean by not being able to lose them, time is not important it seems that our thoughts and actions are parallel even if we don't see eachother for a year.

My other friend moved to the other side of the country and after 8 months we just rang eachother up. Just like he was living next door and no time had passed.

It's nice to know that I can call them whenever I want and they'll be there.

I truely believe that friends are one of the best things to life, that and music 😃
Now the trick is just to find a partner who can be your friend + who can give you love (on a total other more horizontal way 😃 )

Like in Jamella's story ... Good friends aren't hard to find, you just have to be able to reach out (just like you would walk up to a girl and ask her out 😉 ).
I believe friends can be found anywhere as long as you be honest towards them 90% will be honest towards you and so a relation of trust can be build.

The more you give, the more you receive.

(I'm sorry that I go on about this topic but friends are in my top list of things to live for)

On AAS I've found a couple of people who I can trust completely and see as very good friends (although I never met them).

A big thanks to those people especially to those 2 who are helping me to get to the pubmeeting!! You have no idea how much I appreciate it!!!

(end of stupid ramblings 😉 )

[quote="FOX HOUND"]jamella you make us proud to have you as a frind 8)[/quote]

that's very nice of you FOX HOUND! 8)

thanks!

There are so many kinds of friendships.
Like Dazler, I have two friends who have been there for decades. One I met when I was 5, the other when I was 10 years old. There has been years when we haven't seen each other but when me meet, it's like there was no gap. And I know that if I'm in trouble, I can count on them. They know the real me, the core, beneath all the career stuff and everything.
Then there are other kind of friends. The one's that I actually see more often. They come through work / hobbies / similar family situation and they too are very valuable. I know that if my work / hobbies / family situation change, these friendships may fade away but it does not make these friends any less important. Life is a long journey, you need friends on the way. You loose some but make new ones instead.
And then, finally, you have your wife/husband. Sure, friendship needs to be included in a good marriage. But that - oh, boy - is a tricky one...

i have 4
soon they will be 3 (if i can kill Link for good this time 😃 )
i trust them with my life (but i will not let them drive for me i know them too good to try that -they drive like hell-so do i) 😃