why the hell >:(

11 replies · 2,573 views · Started 04 April 2003

evobit 04 Apr 2003, 11:29

why the hell are girls so bitchy and uptight?

I really don't get it.

I know this isn't the right place for this, but I've been hangin out on these forums most days, so u guys are almost like friends :/

I wanted to go out tonite to a dance party, that I've known about for at least 2 weeks, and I've really been looking forward to it. My girl (of 11 months) wanted to come with me too.

So the day arrives and she's not feeling 100%, so says to me we might only be able to stay a while when we go. That's fine with me cos I didn't want to be up all night anyway, and the main priority was getting there to see a friend do his first gig as a dj in front of a big group of people.

So the night arrives and she's still not feeling 100%, but doesn't say she doesn't want to go. But then the time to get ready arrives and she curls up on the bed as if she's mad at me and won't hardly talk to me. I ask what's the matter - nothing (standard reply meaning something wrong?). I ask if she doesn't want to go anymore - silence. So I keep on getting ready. Time comes to go and I ask if she's coming - silence. I ask if she's staying - silence. I ask what's wrong - "nothing". I ask if she wants me to stay and look after her - grunt, "you're going anyway" as if to say doesn't matter what she wants.

So I tell her it makes a big difference because I don't want her to be home and miserable thinking I don't care, and I can't go out and enjoy myself if she's shitty at me. She just tells me to go. So I finish getting ready and leave, and she txts me and says 'fuck you, you don't care about me etc'. So, I turn around and come home. Its now too late to go out and have fun, I'm now too worried about what's wrong.

But at home all I get is - I don't want you around right now go away. I can't win! I've done nothing wrong, she doesn't want me to go and she doesn't want me to stay. So she grabs her blanket and goes to sleep on the couch. I'm down here on the computer cos I'm now far too worked up to sleep.

WHAT THE FUCK DID I DO???

btw I'm 25 and she's 21, the only thing I can put it down to is age and her not communicating her feelings properly. Somebody will tell me I'm completely wrong (I hope) and point out what I did to cause so much grief.

GhostDog 04 Apr 2003, 11:56

That is how women are some times.
I think that no man can know how women really think.
I really dont think you did anything wrong.
But i do think that your girl was kind of selfish(In this situation),and that you should take a stand sometimes.

Maybe you shouldn't listen to me,i have never loved a women and i have never been in a long realtionship(I guess yours is because you are living together)

Dazler 04 Apr 2003, 13:52

been there done that :s
They expect you to drop everything in those cases.
Best thing I came up with was that you should stay home first and discuss later when she's not pissed anymore and just hope that she'll think about it the next time and that she won't be that mad again 😉 (good luck 😛)

BTW if she says that she doesn't want you around just go and sit somewhere near her that she knows you're there (preferably not enjoying yourself, sitting down doing nothing in other words) I never saw a girl get mad when I did that and it gives her the feeling you tried and didn't ran away.

You could of course get her the best present in the world 😉 will solve it 2 😉

MemphisX 04 Apr 2003, 14:04

Better take her and make a deep chat. It's a little bit difficult. Be a little romantic. And through a deep discussion try to analyse her feelings and try to fix anything that was wrong. It seems to me that she acted a little bit selfish, maybe she didn't even know what she wanted but she also didn't know that by her acts she would make things worst. So try to communicate more. You may also find that it was sth else that bothers her but she could't even discuss it.

jamella 05 Apr 2003, 06:45

most women are like that. (please take note of the word most and that i didn't use the word all) they tend to behave very childishly esp if they know that the guy is really deeply inlove with her. i am also a woman and for me that shouldn't be the case. to have a guy as your significant other doesn't authorize you to behave as such. and for me if you, i mean a girl or a woman also in return, love the guy, the more that she shouldn't be acting as such. i dont know, because for me, if you love a person, you will also value the feeling of that person and not just the pleasure or the good feeling that that person is giving you. it is very simple, if she doesn't like you to go, then she can just simply tell you that in a nice way, she can even kiss while hugging you and then whisper in your ear softly if you can stay with her because she would like to be besides you, esp in that time that she's not feeling well and that she would like you to fondle her. i dont think you can resist on that one. instead of just saying nothing and then when you're already there at the party, you will recieve such kind of message. in my opinion, you should make your stand as well when needed as most of the girls would tend to behave like that most especially if they know that they can make you follow them.

just a piece of advise...

😉

GhostDog 05 Apr 2003, 10:52

Wow Jammela,our circuits have a similar pattern 😃

Geek Mode OFF!

SwitchBlade 05 Apr 2003, 20:56

All I can say is that I was once engaged to a girl like that. Fell head over heels in love with her, then only realised I was being manipulated when friends pointed the situation out. If she does that a lot, dump her and head for the hills and start looking for someone who has enough brains to communicate her feelings and the caring to take yours into account. It's a hard step to make (I was with this girl 2-3 years) but it's the best one.

MaleBuffy 05 Apr 2003, 22:34

I say do whatever you want. If she realy loves you she will eventualy stop being silly. If she doesnt then you have nothing to loose anyways. Dont feel sorry for her, since she doesnt feel sorry for you! Sorry if this sound too harsh, but thats the way it should be. I am also in a relationship and I know how it is. My 3 last relationships latest 2 years each so I know women can be very pretending and manipulating.

Women are like stamps, when you spit on them they stick!

(dont take that literaly) 😃

MaleBuffy 05 Apr 2003, 22:36

Ah yes and something else. Never EVER let a girlfriend come between you and your friends. Girlfriends come and go, friends are there to stay!

TANKERx 06 Apr 2003, 08:58

I think much of it is to do with age.

My experience is that when they're that young, many girls just don't know what they want but they want the options there for when they do.

Re: the previous post, there's an old Swansea proverb;

"Girls before boys, but never before your mates".

😃

crypto 06 Apr 2003, 09:31

Girls acting up like that needs more sex, this just based on my experience though. 😃 😃

But being authoritarian sometimes help as well.

evobit 07 Apr 2003, 04:19

Thanks for all your help guys and girls, it's good to know I'm not the only one who experiences these things 😊

Back on track now, turns out the problem was largely that she was feeling unwell, and was grumpy that she couldn't go, and that in turn made her grumpier when she thought I was gonna go.

All sorted now tho

Thanks again friends 😊😊