Yep, "Friends With Benefits" isn't too bad of a deal, but it sucks if you're in love with the girl though.. But it sure beats being a "Cuddle Bitch", at least you get some.. :fadein:

MemphisX 08 Jul 2003, 20:22

I don't know but this theory is really faulty...

Do really people make choices based ONLY on sex?
Sure it has some basis but...

Oh and the best part of all

"What is the purpose of life?" The purpose of life is to move up the ladder. The person you are with now should be better (higher on your ladder) than the person you were last with. Okay it's not perfect but if you have no direction in life, trying to fuck hotter and hotter chicks or richer and richer guys is as good a place as any to start. In addition to giving a good base toward a meaning of life there are a few other things that ladder theory explains.

So speakin about the editor he is sure a sexoholic...
And for sure he will never be rich with such a small mind...

Raven 08 Jul 2003, 23:25

[quote="MemphisX"] he is sure a sexoholic...
[/quote]

Aren't we all?

He does exaggerate quite a bit, and oversimplify some things, but on a general level I think he's absolutely right. And I think people who have lived for a while will acknowledge his theory..

GhostDog 08 Jul 2003, 23:40

I'm with Raven on this one 😮ops: Memphix,i'll be 23 in two days,i'm not saying that i have more expirience then you,5 years is not a lot,but if i was 18 right now,probably i would've had similar response to yours 😊

Jadeviper 09 Jul 2003, 06:58

I must get round to reading the whole thing at some point... I'm intrigued now 😉

Dazler 09 Jul 2003, 07:43

I agree with the theory.
Only one thing should be changed:
Money/power should be more general as in "ability to give a good future".
Which in most cases means Money/power ...

For MemphisX:
Men's desire and life goal is to search for women and take care of them.
Women always do things based on the future; they will select the men that will make them happy and provide them with a secure future and childeren.

Which makes love a totaly different concept between both.
For example: a man will not cheat on his wife if he get's enough at home, while a wife is more easily seduced even if she has everything.

The seducer just has to give her the feeling that their future together will be better.

This also explains the theory that most girls choose men that resemble her father in some way ...

I don't blame women/men for thinking this way, it's our nature ... and if u use this knowledge you can get any girl you want ... (trust me on this 😛)

Jadeviper 09 Jul 2003, 08:01

[quote="Dazler"]I don't blame women/men for thinking this way, it's our nature ... and if u use this knowledge you can get any girl you want ... (trust me on this 😛)[/quote]

Robin, I'm shocked! :angel:

Dazler 09 Jul 2003, 08:20

Don't worry I'm too sensitive to abuse it 😉

MemphisX 09 Jul 2003, 20:49

As you all said guys (and as I said it has some basis), I agree with the theory... BUT NOT TOTTALY.
It has many errors and saying that all women are bitches (ok he doesn't say all but he says 99,99%) is not correct (maybe an 80-90% is better)...

And also there are many variations on the ladder theory which if we put them right now they may kill the theory itself (If for example men have only one ladder then on the same ladder are their mother,sisters etc, etc-Not to mention other varations like emotionals etc. etc.)

In other words it is INCOMPLETE...

MemphisX 09 Jul 2003, 21:01

[quote="Dazler"]
Men's desire and life goal is to search for women and take care of them.
[/quote]

Dazler, unfortunately that does not aply for me cause my life purpose has much higher expectations. After all the women I am searching is not to take care of her but she will take care of me. The sex part may be important but not crucial and surely less important...
(now is that a variation or not)

And after all my signature speaks of itself...

Dazler 10 Jul 2003, 06:59

I don't think you can actually define every person within a theory 😉
anyway that forum is full of losers which seem to really hate women :s
So can't support the theory anymore since I love women (one in particular 😉 )

LAuRA 10 Jul 2003, 13:16

Yep I agree, the forum is somewhat sad to read. There's even the theory about marriage.

I'd like to comment on the taking care -issue. Before I got married, I used to dream about a boyfriend / spouse who would be there to comfort me when I was down and listen to all my worries. I guess all girls dream the same. Later I found out that sure, he does that, but he's also equipped with his own worries and problems and he expects me to help him out in turn. So I believe marriage is two people taking care each other. He has something I need, I have something he needs. Who needs more and who has to give more will change during the years. I have learned that things happen in life that you don't anticipate, problems arise that you never expected. And you have to make a decision about whether to climb the ladder again or stick with your choises. The other person may loose the money / power, and certainly the attraction fades during the years. So in the end you will stand or fall with the 10 % that's left (ref.the rating system in the Ladder theory).

Was I trying to be pessimistic or optimistic? Hmmm 8)

Dazler 10 Jul 2003, 14:26

Probably the reason why I don't know anyone who isn't divorced 😃
(yes I do but let's say 75% is divorced)

Are people really ment to be with eachother forever?

I don't think it can be done, although every time again I think we can make it and do everything for it 😃

But then again if you don't feel that way about your partner (think that you are the perfect couple that is) what kind of relationship are you talking about 😊

Love works in mysterious ways 😊

GhostDog 10 Jul 2003, 14:34

So I believe marriage is two people taking care each other.

I really like what Laura said and I think that the same description could be used of relationships in general.

I think of my self as a very sentimental person and like Dazler,I love women.I'm not lucky as he is and I still haven't found one in particular but I wish I will.Not loving and not being loved in return is the worst thing that could happen to me.I think that the ladder theory could be applied 100% in some situations but not when it comes to love.Maybe I'm too sentimental or old-fashioned but I believe that love is the most powerful thing and it is the greatest thing that can happen to a person,and no theory can explain that.

Dazler 10 Jul 2003, 14:44

[quote="GhostDog"]

So I believe marriage is two people taking care each other.

I really like what Laura said and I think that the same description could be used of relationships in general.

Exactly ...

LAuRA 10 Jul 2003, 16:14

I'm not saying that it's easy. I'm not saying that love conqueres all. I wish it did but I dont' know... Falling in love is the fun part, what comes ten years later is the tricky one.

But sex doesn't conquer all either, that's for sure 😉

MemphisX 10 Jul 2003, 20:15

Cannot be said better guys...

And I am sure this theory is very famous to teenagers or at least people younger than 30 years old (I think the author of the theory mentions somewhere that he is 25).

Until they'll see that there are more interesting things to life than sex(not that sex isn't interesting but do you think it will remain as good after the age of 60 or maybe less?).

And lastly he gives a bad impression to others about his self.
Not only sexoholic but offending females because they don't think the same way he does...

Ok I am tired...
I can say a lot of things about this theory but it would'not make any sence...

If you want answers about that kind of stuff better go to a psychiatrist...(he will surely have a better experience 😉 )